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Kenetik30 asked:
These men are manipulative and unfaithful, but the woman accepts this behavior rather than be in a healthy relationship.
I was dating this woman for some time and she told me about her past which didn’t bother me at all, in fact I thought it would build trust and love for each other. I couldn’t be so wrong.
We’ve been friends for a decade and knew her cycle with men - I believe she seeks father figures for a man but its the father figure who sexually and mentally abused her so I never tried to control her.
when we got together, I gave her all the respect in the world would do anything for her but I’m stern with her so she wouldn’t roll over me. it seemed she’d try to test me all the time, testing my threshold of b.s.-she tested my patience, my dependability, and manhood all the time. meanwhile, I would get this feeling shes still hung up over this musician guy she dated before me that is married, sleeps around with women, and manipulates her to do things she wouldn’t normally do. She claims they love each other. ok? so we have an argument about money and I yelled at her because she felt that i’m her boyfriend and I obligated to help her out. It felt like she was trying to hustle me I didn’t fall for it. Well she breaks up with me and goes back to her other guy. She accepts her roll that she’s #2 and is happy with it. I never treated her wrong even when we were just friends. i’ve always been there for her yet she wants to treat me like a trick on the street. She’s such a narcissistic sociopath that self defeats everything in her life. Why is she like this? I feel like captain save-a-hoe. Is there and explanation?
Why is it always the musicians…
These men are manipulative and unfaithful, but the woman accepts this behavior rather than be in a healthy relationship.
I was dating this woman for some time and she told me about her past which didn’t bother me at all, in fact I thought it would build trust and love for each other. I couldn’t be so wrong.
We’ve been friends for a decade and knew her cycle with men - I believe she seeks father figures for a man but its the father figure who sexually and mentally abused her so I never tried to control her.
when we got together, I gave her all the respect in the world would do anything for her but I’m stern with her so she wouldn’t roll over me. it seemed she’d try to test me all the time, testing my threshold of b.s.-she tested my patience, my dependability, and manhood all the time. meanwhile, I would get this feeling shes still hung up over this musician guy she dated before me that is married, sleeps around with women, and manipulates her to do things she wouldn’t normally do. She claims they love each other. ok? so we have an argument about money and I yelled at her because she felt that i’m her boyfriend and I obligated to help her out. It felt like she was trying to hustle me I didn’t fall for it. Well she breaks up with me and goes back to her other guy. She accepts her roll that she’s #2 and is happy with it. I never treated her wrong even when we were just friends. i’ve always been there for her yet she wants to treat me like a trick on the street. She’s such a narcissistic sociopath that self defeats everything in her life. Why is she like this? I feel like captain save-a-hoe. Is there and explanation?
Why is it always the musicians…
I’m not perfect but I’m a good and honest man.
what more would she want. Nothing is enough with her.
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8 Responses to “Why do women whom had abusive paths fall in love with toxic men?”
…be honest with yourself
They do it because of self esteem issues and that is all they know. When you find someone that is good you are emotionally and intelligently unable to understand it.
experience.
Unfortunately people tend to go for what’s familiar. If they have had abusive pasts then what is familiar for them is more abuse. It’s unfortunate but unless something is there to break the cycle, it’s going to happen again and again.
lol captain save-a-hoe. I think they dont feel comfortable when someone is nice to them. It becomes normal to be abused…its really sad. My gf is like that, but i helped her. But she has been messed up in the head.
Women are weird critters. I have no idea why they do what they do. I once had a girl in my life that I thought I was in love with. Thought she loved me. She had two beautiful girls. When we went our separate ways she hooked up with an abuser. Thing was I’d taught her and the girls basic self defense. She rolled over for this guy. Then she went to college to become one of those types that sit and listen to the BS excuses why there are scumbags out there abusing women and children.
They want to marry their daddy and fix him:
Read Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood.
I’ve seen this time and time again. Women want a safe bet - a decent man who will be there to fall back on when she needs to. But I am always amazed at the amount of women who want the bad-a$$ guys. I really don’t understand it. I’m sure you are probably a lovely, honest, decent human being, but unfortunately you were a stand-in while she was biding her time to see which one of the d!kheads she has dated would take her back. Some women just think that they deserve nothing better than to be treated like crap, especially those who have an extremely low self esteem. This lady seems to be one of them. They don’t think they’re worthy of a man whos gonna treat them right, and can’t believe it when they find one. So they’d rather go back and be abused by the other f**kers. So let her. You’ve had a lucky escape if you ask me.
Well I think you said it all really. She is a narcissistic, sociopath. As such she cares about nothing and no one. She is looking for someone to run game on and someone to get over on and when she couldn’t do that to you she went back to the cheater. Most likely the cheater gives her what she wants as far as money is concerned and she don’t care how he treats her because in the end she is the one that is going to win in that situation. She is the master manipulator, not him, she is manipulating him too. Why would you want to be involved with someone like this is the real question. As far as her looking for a father figure she most likely is because she never had a father. Women learn how to have relationships with men from their fathers, so if a female has a rotten relationship with her father she is most likely going to have rotten relationships with men for the rest of her life unless she gets some help and in this case I doubt that that is going to happen.