azlan asked:


He is a musician. She (the woman, not the wife) is bipolar and borderline (diagnosed ). I tried to help her (the tramp.) She lied, they screwed eachother for a while, maybe still. I’m done with her, but I feel an affinity with his wife even though I don’t know her personally. We were both betrayed - me and the wife. The wife was betrayed by her husband, I was betrayed that my friend (a girl with whom I slept and laid (no pun intended) myself on the line for as a friend) lied to me and used the realtionship to stab me in the back, to make me jealous.

Should I tell the wife? It’s hard to seperate revenge from what’s really right. But wouldn’t YOU want to know if your husband/wife was scum? This is an F’ing quandry. I want to do what’s right.

If you’ve broken your vows, I don’t want to hear your response/opinion. As far as I’m concerned, you’re weak and you **** and probably are full of excuses. I want to hear from people who care about their moral integiity.

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15 Responses to “Should a good man tell a wife of a jerk her husband is sleeping with other women?”

1. J B Books on September 21st, 2007 8:16 pm

   no. you should mind your own business.

2. Lupita on September 24th, 2007 1:36 pm

   mind your own reationship/business

3. Mack on September 25th, 2007 9:37 pm

   You should stay out of other grown folks affairs.

4. Kimberly H on September 28th, 2007 4:58 pm

   I wish someone would have told me.

5. CRAVIN on October 1st, 2007 5:57 am

   How about You Mind your Own Business and stay out of Other Peoples Relationships.
   CM

6. Yak Rider on October 2nd, 2007 11:12 am

   Stay out of it. But you should tell HIM that he’s a rat and that you want nothing more to do with him.

7. FlyingBrewMaster on October 5th, 2007 5:45 am

   She deserves to know BUT as you eluded to, are you doing this because she deserves to know or for some revenge thing? If you can’t say for sure that it’s because she deserves to know - then you best stay out of it.

   If you didn’t know (pun intended) the other woman, would you tell the wife? There’s your answer.

8. keishe83 on October 7th, 2007 8:29 am

   That’s nice you care so much about her, but it’s best to mind your business.

9. Drews Princess on October 7th, 2007 10:02 am

   I completely agree with you. I think you should do what is going to make it right for you. just be aware that you are going to bringing hurt to this woman (the wife). It may be, that she already has a sneaking suspiscion about her man cheating. I whole heartedly believe in moral integrity but on the other hand, i would **** to be the messenger and cause an innocent women spontaneous hurt or emotional pain. I think you should perhaps wait a little while for your anger to cool down, perhaps you will find clarity in the situation. don’t act hastily. Clarify with yourself whether you would be telling her for her sake, or for yours.

   Best wishes.

10. Priek on October 8th, 2007 6:19 am

    You should tell

11. Yerba Fallasee on October 8th, 2007 12:02 pm

    Leave an anonymous message on her voice mail. Don’t become involved beyond that. I was once cheated on, and it was devastating to find out, but I am glad I did. No self-respecting person should stay with such filthy scum out of ignorance. She needs to be informed. In this situation, you are just the messenger, nothing more than a good Samaritan who wants only the best for all involved, even that jerk who can’t keep it in his pants. He sounds like he’s probably ready to move on from his marital bliss, whether he thinks so or not. Telling her will take the load off your chest, and the anonymity of a voice message will keep you out of it.

12. gaby2_cry on October 9th, 2007 12:21 am

    I wish someone would have told me.But if one of my husbands friends told me that.I probably would hit my husband up and then he would deny it.So its up to her wheather she will believe it or not.But if not you will open her eyes a little.Then maybe she will find it for herself.Good luck! oh by the way for those of you who said no he shouldnt …..thats whats wrong with society today everyone lost there morals and has a who cares attitude you would if it was you! huh!

13. qaz1qaz1qa on October 10th, 2007 5:09 am

    Integrity is every thing to me. That does not make me a police of the world. Nor do I invite danger even though my courage makes some of my friends skittish..

    I get involved with friends and relitives. People who look to me for honesty and protection.

    Here is how you do it if you want to.
    Take pictures of him and her together. Mail them, not email them to her (Anonymous no return address.) With a short typed note saying something like You have a right to know your husband is having an affair or what ever you like. MAKE IT SHORT.
    That will get the ball rolling. Thats all you have to do.
    Some may say this is cowardly way to do it. But the photos are the proof you need and you stay out of the whole affair.
    If you are some one of integrity you will not get in the middle of the marriage. You have alerted her of what she had the right to know and thats ALL you need do.

14. Shiv on October 13th, 2007 1:34 am

    Yes but only if you are sure.

15. SS on October 13th, 2007 4:02 am

    yes tell her… she needs to know,.