Apr
23
I need advice from women?
Filed Under Women in Music
Alright, where do I start. Im a person who believes in what is. Reality in other words. Im kinda cold because of this and its a real turn off for some women. Im also brutualy honest. I dont like to lie if I dont have to. I really dont care about a lot of things because of there importance to life and living. If I lost my job and car, as long as I had a place to live I wouldnt care. I dont stress I dont worry. Im not afriad of anything (except mold and women).
Women generally scare me because its like looking into pandora’s box. I dont know what to say, becuase Im a synical person 99% time Im goin to **** them off, but Im only joking but nevetheless women dont like it. But thats just who I am. Cant change that. As far as my appearance, Im a 26 year old construction worker so Im pretty dirty most of the time but my physique is decent (6′6 250). Im a musician as well. I am an all around creative person. I guess what im asking is how would you liked to be approached?
Addendum
When I say Im brutualy honest it is meant on a case by case basis. Thats how I deal with everything I dont group things or catergorize. Im not going to degrade anyone, but if my honest opinion is asked of Im not going to hold back. People have a tendency to hide from the truth because it may or may not hurt them. Of course truth and opinion dont not got hand and hanD.
I like to kid around, that just my personality. Dont get me wrong I can be very serious as well, I just feel as though life is to short to worrying about petty things. Happiness is most important to me.
When I say Im dirty most the time is because I dont change out of my work gear because I dont have time. Im a jazz musican and some time I go to clubs with my work gear on becuase I havent had time to go a the way back to the house to change.
I guess I need a woman with thicker skin than most
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11 Responses to “I need advice from women?”
regarding you saying that you cant change, i believe that anyone can change if they have a hard enough desire to do so, so if you really want to change you can do it
honest isnt always the best policy. all you need is saying the rite thing to the rite person just filter what ya tryin so say women liked to be impressed not brushed off like u said turn off!
You already said yourself that you are synical, your going to **** her off, you dont care about a lot of things and that your kinda cold. How would I like to be approached by you? Please dont.
well, if you’ll be approaching me… i would want to be approached as natural as you can get to approach me…but make sure that you respect me and show to me that even if i do not know you, you’re still trustworthy…=) for a girl like me… a simple, nice and respectful approach is the best way to approach me…
Just act friendly and dont go and curse the woman off ( i’m preety sure u woudnt do that ). Be carefull what you say. I know this guy that was JUST like u…but once he met the girl that he is with now,He totally changed and he is not the same person anymore. Just act cool and wut else can i tell you :S Dont really know…And be carefull wut u tell woman..sometimes you may make a joke..but it WILL **** the woman off :S Good luck
well….. have you tried chatting to them first before meeting them? because then you will have a chance to warn them and see what they are like too. you will then learn what to do and what not to do around the lady, this would be making great progress bu the sounds of things! no one should really care what you look like. if they do they are not worth wasting your time on. what im tryig to say in short is take things slow….women like that nd just get to know them first and let them get to know you. this won’t happen over night but by the sounds of things its worth doing for you! hope this helps xx
I have been single for 7 years. I don’t expect anyone to change for me, and I don’t think I should have to change for anyone else. ( compromise and change are different.) You really need to just be yourself, and wait until someone comes along that likes you for who you are.
Approach me as the real you, not the person you think I want you to be.
you sound like a hottie in hiding. most women probably fail to see the hunk due to the layer of dirt and synicism. smile alot, make sure you have nice teeth, it was what caught my attention the first time i spotted my husband before we actually met. being a construction worker and a musician are big points! **** ****! smile alot, keep an open mind, don’t try too hard to get women, they will come to you if you look confident. you don’t have to change, i appreciate a smart-ass as long as he is actually a SMART ***! nice teeth are muy importante!
I have to be very very cautious,because you are afraid of me ,but so far I don’t have mold. I understand that you don’t like to lie if you don’t have to. Your profile is okay, the problem is I am a full blooded woman and you are afraid of women will it be a good idea that I should be in a cage when you approach me ?
there is nothing wrong with honesty just be careful when you do it, i think that women are more sensitive than men, and why should you joke too much when you have just met someone? do it at the right time, perhaps when you get to know them better. you say that you cannot change, however i believe that if you truly fall in love you are going to change, cos that’s what happens. you do it for love and lets not forget the fact that nobody is perfect therefore if you want to remain in a relationship there are compromises to be made. you say that you are a musician, i consider that to be a big plus cos most women like creative men. so use music as a subject of conversation, i like men who express themselves, you have got plenty to talk about. you need to say more about yourself but remember try to remain humble and above all just relax and be yourself, there is nothing to be afraid of, good luck
You believe in reality and have decided you know what reality is. You may mean something by it other than what I mean, because we each perceive the world from our own point bof view. So your first thing to consider is that you don’t have to believe in my reality, but you do have to respect that I’m entitled to my own point of view.
Brutally honest but just joking? I don’t buy it at all. Brutality is seldom necessary. It is possible to be honest *and* kind. If you are just joking and people are offended, look at whether your joke is denigrating. Running others down will offend them. Running yourself down will annoy me. There are times when just keeping your mouth shut is the best policy. And your take on reality is not what makes you cold. It’s your fear that makes you cold. You *can* change but you’ll have to take risks just like the rest of us. We’re all humans here. We don’t want to be lied to and we don’t want to be hurt.
Before you say anything, ask yourself, is it true? Is it kind? Is it fair? Not just with women, but with *everyone*. You’ll probably find that if you treat people with a little warmth, and make your words pass that test, you’ll get a lot more warmth back.
As an all around creative person, it’s likely that you’d be able to get together with others through your art, though if your art is all about therapy for your angst, it’s unlikely that you’ll attract someone who isn’t also full of angst. There’s nothing wrong with theraputic art, but doing art through a variety of motivations will also likely help you feel better and attract more balanced people to you.
You mention your appearance and say pretty dirty most of the time Still, when you’re off work for the evening you do shower off the construction dust, right? I don’t mind seeing work dirt when work is being done, but by the time we’re going to be hanging out, eating, playing music or whatever, you’re more likely to get positive response if you wash up a bit.
As to how I’d like to be approached, first there’s got to be a reason for us to interact, whether it’s asking what the book is that I’m reading, or noticing that I’m getting lathe chisels at the hardware store and asking, What are you making?
Interests shared lead to thoughts shared. If you have something in common with me, I’ll appreciate hearing your perspective. From there, really listening to the other person is a major attractant. If it turns out that there’s any chemistry between us, it will eventually come into the conversation, and we can negotiate from there where it’s going to go.
If you don’t like something you don’t have to pretend that you do, but you can be kind about saying it doesn’t do it for you. Respect yourself and me, and we’d likely get along fine.
Good luck to you.