Mar
25
greg a asked:
I have a friend who is extremely problemed emotionally is paranoid can be an addict,but is also very accomplished-good body, intelligent,a good musician etc….If they do go for these types of men,why?
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7 Responses to “do women shy away or go for these types of men?”
More than likely if a woman is going for this type of man it is because she hasn’t seen the crazy paranoid part yet. Once she sees it she may leave or feel sorry for them and think she can make a difference for the poor soul.
why would anyone want a emotionally problemed, paranoid, addict….sounds like a big loser to me
she still has time to change
This isn’t a very complete description. But based on what you’ve provided, I’m sure some women would go for a guy like that. Many woman seek out men that are broken in some way- they want to take care of them, repair them, etc. It sounds like your friend has a lot of good things going for him, so I’m sure he can attract more than just that type of woman.
I’m not really sure what you mean by addict. I think the above would hold if you are talking about an addictive personality or minor (and legal) addictions. If you’re talking about something major- like cocaine addiction, or alcoholism, then that’s a different story. In that case, women who share those problems will likely seek him out- and that probably won’t be good for either of them.
It depends on the woman, of course. Some have a rescue complex and want to find a project, someone very wounded and dysfunctional because they want to believe that their love will transform another and that it is powerful enough to change the course of another human beings life! Powerful and heady stuff that really feeds the ego!
Or it could be that they feel a certain comfort level with a guy who appears to have it all together on the outside, but inside is so obviously struggling with some issues. There is something about seeing someone who is down and vulnerable that brings out the compassionate, nuturing aspect in some women. It also serves to let a woman let down her own guard and admit some of her own vulnerabilites. Wounded women love this opportunity and bonded by thier pain and their wounds they feel like soulmates.
I have a lot of musician friends and I find that they have an amazing ability to plummet to depths that would scare others. They can be addictive personality types that do everything in excess, in and including drugs. But from the depths of their own pain they become alchemists of sorts - ablet to create, to play a muscial instrument, to write haunting lyrics or give expression of their very heart and souls.It is the depths that can fasincate a woman. Some would call is dysfunctional, however. These types ca be very attractive to women, the wounded poet types. There is something fascinating about someone who is able to bring their pain into a creative outlet, especially when it is in the form of music, where everyone can hear and listen and ride the metaphors. I am not type casting all musicians as druggies by the way, as most I know are very professional and respectable and drug free.
Yep, your friend has a powerful combination of attritbutes that could potentially make him irresisitable to many women…good body, intelligent, accomplished and a troubled musician. He is the perfect bad boy.
Yes, the type you mention can be very attractive to women, especially women who haven’t dealt with thier own issues and want to avoid any real deep soul searching on their own part. They find it almost a relief to have the focus off of themselves and a venue where they can direct their fix it energies. It is easier to look at someone else than it is too look at yourself.
I’m sure there are some girls that might go for these types of men, but the vast majority of girls like to shy away from guys that are addicts. Emotionally problemed and paranoid doesn’t help for some people, but I like to help guys like that. Addicts are a big no-no for many girls unless the girls are addicts themselves.
Some woman have a disease called save-a-ho syndrome. Some woman don’t.