jerrybathers asked:


I want throw this out there and see if anyone else is feeling this. I have lived in many places in the US. New York, LA, Kansas City, St Louis and of all the urban areas I lived in there seems to be a lack of available women in Nashville for the average guy. Let me specify: Difficult for an average income 30,000 to 45,000 dollars a year, home owning and non music industry related guy age 35 to 40. I theorize the problem is that the mainly a male dominated entertain industry creating an abundance of available males between the ages of 20 and 5o. I see the problem as three or fold: Nashville has large population of : A. Guys between 18 to 35 who are musicians (many poor but attractive) B Men 30 to 45 who may have come from the first group who are now industry types (producers, publishers, etc) and 40 to 50 who are very wealth who have been in the music biz for quite sometime. It creates a challenging situation for most men.

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icyheat06 asked:


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It seems to me that whether a man is visually attractive or not really DOES matter to females. Let me explain.

And, no, I’m not trying to stir up a pity party here. This is a legitimate concern of mine.

I don’t consider myself to be downright ugly, but I’m certainly not eye-candy for the ladies, either (25yo, 5’7, 190 lbs.). Not real tall, not overly muscular, a few extra pounds (that I am losing right now), but nothing overly disgusting. However, I can confidently say that what I lack in visual attractiveness I make up for in genuineness, friendliness, and generosity.

I am a devoted Christian man, who treats people with respect and dignity, is affectionate, pleasant, genuine, patient, a regular blood donor, willing to show a lady that she is special, does not smoke or do drugs, and has this unconscious knack to do the right thing, even if it’s not popular. I value the family and regularly attend church. I’m even a musician (I play the piano), something many women claim to be an enormous turn-on.

I’ve taken my share of girls on dates and I have never sworn in front of them, smoked, consumed an alcoholic beverage, told them a raunchy joke, boasted to them, or embarrassed them (or myself). I dress nicely, have friendly, casual conversations with them, I listen to what they say with much interest, I smile a lot (no, not in a creepy, lustful way), I make them laugh, and I treat them with utmost respect. When I drop them off, they tell me they had a great time, I tell them the same, and I continue to remain casual and friendly. And I follow them up with a phone call the next day to ask about the previous night in more specific detail.

Not once have I received negative feedback or a comment from them about something they did not like about me or what I did (or failed to do). However, not one of them agreed to a second date in the future, much less an intimate relationship. (I usually get this during phone conversations AFTER those first phone calls the days following the dates.) They’ve all told me something like, You know, you’re a really nice guy, but…. Most of the time, that’s followed by something to the effect of, it’s just not a good time right now. So I don’t force the issue. I call them back about 2 weeks to a month later, and they have all said that it’s still not a good time. So I move on.

After about the sixth time, I began to have doubts about my appearance. I was a gentleman from start to finish every time. They acknowledged that, but I figured someone would have pointed out an area I needed to improve in by the sixth time. I would ask my later dates if there was anything specifically I needed to work on, but they said there wasn’t and it was the same old story.

If it makes any difference, about 90 percent of the questions asked between us during the dates are asked by me, mainly to break awkward silences.

All of these girls have told me that they do not have boyfriends. And they all seem like normal human beings like me (pleasant, not stuck-up, etc.).

However, I have seen some of them since with some guys that didn’t treat them nearly as well as I did at first, but were more visually appealing. (I would know; I had some classes with them.) Then, after a while, they seemed very pleased with their new boyfriends, and later, husbands.

When I see things like this, I am happy for them, but at the same time, I can’t help but question my appearance, since I get the impression that I’ve done everything right in regards to personality, clothing, etiquette, and manners.

Here is what I think goes on: women/girls want a visually attractive mate, even if he does not currently possess the traits and values many women (including those here at Yahoo! Answers) claim they find most attractive. However, they stick with these guys who, to their credit, ultimately develop/acquire these traits (kindness, affection, generosity, loyalty, etc.) over time and become the men that they want as their soulmates. In contrast, guys (including myself) who are not-so-visually appealing, but who ALREADY possess these attractive traits are not given hardly any chance to get their foot in the door and let an intimate relationship come into being. That’s what it seems like to me.

Ladies, honestly, is this how it really is? Or is my luck just that terrible (9 people and counting)?

I am confused and would really like to know. Your answers, responses, and thoughts are greatly appreciated.

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yichun0211 asked:


Most scientists,musicians,writers ,and politics are male,does that mean men are cleverer?
Today I read an essay and it said that men dislike women who are too smart,is that true?And all the boys in my class said they’re more concerned about women’s apperance than their ability!

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William C asked:


We seem to love to label people as haters especially those who want to spread truth and love. For example, a musician that calls women hoes and b*tches will get a lot of attention even from females, BUT people will say that’s disrepectful and they are called haters by the musician’s fans.

Is it me or is there something seriously wrong with this?

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